How Much House Can I Afford? The Real Math Beyond the 28/36 Rule

The pre-approval letter tells you what a lender will *lend*. It does not tell you what you can comfortably *pay*. Those are different numbers, and the gap is where people get hurt.


What Lenders Actually Check: The 28/36 Rule

Many lenders stretch the back-end to 43% — the ceiling for a Qualified Mortgage. Just because you qualify at 43% doesn't mean living there is comfortable.


A Worked Example

Say your gross income is $6,000/month.

If your other debts cost $600/month, your housing budget is capped at $1,560 — the back-end rule binds first.

Now subtract what's inside that payment:

ComponentMonthly
Principal & interest~$1,000
Property taxes~$250
Homeowners insurance~$125
PMI (if under 20% down)~$100
HOA (if applicable)~$150
Total~$1,625

You're already over the $1,560 cap — before a single repair. This is the arithmetic that makes people house-poor.


The Four Costs People Forget

  1. PMI. Put down less than 20% and you'll pay private mortgage insurance until you reach 20% equity — often $50-$200/month for nothing.
  2. Property taxes and insurance escrow. These rise. Your payment does not stay flat even with a fixed rate.
  3. Maintenance. A common guideline is 1% of the home's value per year in upkeep. On a $350,000 house that's ~$290/month you should be setting aside.
  4. HOA fees. Not optional, and they increase.

The Lever Most Buyers Miss

Your other debts directly shrink your mortgage budget. Paying off a $300/month car loan frees roughly $300/month of back-end capacity — which can be worth tens of thousands in purchasing power, or the difference between qualifying and not.

Run your actual ratios with our Debt-to-Income Ratio Calculator before you talk to a lender. If your back-end is above 36%, the highest-return move usually isn't saving a bigger down payment — it's clearing high-interest balances first. Our Debt Avalanche Calculator will show how fast that happens.

Buy below your approval number. The lender's job is to check whether you can survive the payment; yours is to check whether you can live with it.


*Educational only, not financial advice. Loan programs, PMI rules, and DTI limits vary by lender and loan type.*